Scheduled Sex Got You Down? 5 Ways to Spice Up Your Fertility Journey

Funny how no one tells you that baby-making turns bedroom fun into a full-time job real quick.

At the beginning it's all about taking ovulation tests and taking your prenatal vitamin.
The tension that comes from your fertile window can sneak up slowly.

If this is you. I want you to know you're not alone.
This is REALLY common.

I see it all the time in clinic. In fact, a Stanford study found that

40% of women dealing with infertility experience emotional distress that messes with their sex life.

And it's not just women. The guys are feeling it too.

They report feeling like walking sperm banks.
That they are only desired during a fertile window.
And more commonly, suffer from performance anxiety.

I get it.
It's a bit of a mood killer when your doctor, acupuncturist and phone app are all telling you when you should be having sex.

How can you have spontaneity when 'trying' has become so regimented?

Here are 5 things you can do to spice up your fertility journey.

1. Go on a date

Whether it's dinner, a fun activity, or a walk.
Prioritise the time, and make it about spending time together.
No work or baby talk!

Think early dating life vibes.

2. Prioritise intimacy

Talking about cervical mucus and OPK peaks kills the mood.

Ditch the routine.

Hide the thermometer and ovulation kits.
Remember that you are a couple first and foremost.
Intimacy can extend beyond the bedroom.

Don't forget to hold hands, kiss, enjoy cuddles, give words of appreciation, and be playful.

3. Keep talking

This might be awkward for some couples.

But couples who talk more about sex have more of it, and report more enjoyment. I'm not talking about discussing the schedule, but creating space for more conversations about sexual expression.
The truth is, you need to talk about it more to have fun with it.

Communication is important for addressing your needs, as well as your partners.

4. Ask for help

You might think you have enough doctors in your sex life already, but don't overlook emotional support.

A fertility counsellor or couples therapist can be a game-changer.
They'll give you tools to navigate the emotional ups and downs, improve communication, and keep your connection strong.
It's not about fixing what's broken - it's about building resilience together.

These are the skills that can support your relationship for years to come.

5. Laugh more

Laughter is a little bit of magic.

It soothes tension, relaxes muscles, relieves stress and lightens the mood.
Couples I work with express that being able to laugh together helps them feel close.
Especially through the hard times of infertility.


Remember, you're in this together.
It's you and your partner versus the problem, not you versus your partner.

Is there something specific you're struggling with in your relationship while trying to conceive?
Hit reply and let me know.
I'm always here to help you navigate this journey.

Jaya x
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